Blog Entry Week 9

Personal Journal 9.1

p. 344 “I” Statements

-You always interrupt when I’m talking.

-I feel upset when you interrupt me, because it makes me feel like what I have to say is not important to you.

-You just have to criticize, don’t you?

-I feel like I can’t do anything right when you criticize me.

-You’re late again, as usual.

-I feel like you don’t value my time when you show up late for our meetings.

-You need to help out more around the house.

-I feel like you don’t appreciate the time and effort it takes to clean the house when you do not participate in cleaning it.

-You get on my nerves when you act so babyish.

-I feel irritated when you do not react to a situation in an adult manner.

Personal Journal 9.3

p. 354 Circles of Yourself

I am a housewife, but I am not lazy.

I am an American, but I am not loud and obnoxious.

I am a woman, but I am not overly sensitive and emotional.

I am a tutor, but I am not exceptionally smart.

Personal Journal 9.4

p. 363 Dealing with Conflict

Work

Cause: My boss accused me of improperly maintaining accountability for sensitive items within our building.

How you handled it: I initially tried to explain the situation to her, but when that failed and she refused to listen, I went to her supervisor and explained the situation. While she was upset with me, the situation was resolved and I was cleared of any wrongdoing.

School

Cause: I had an instructor whose tests did not reflect the material we were studying. In turn, it was causing my classmate’s and I to do poorly on tests.

How you handled it: I reported the situation to the school. While it did not change the situation for my class, it hopefully changed it for future classes.

Home

Cause: My husband and I used to get irritated with little things that each of us did around the house. For example, leaving water spot on the mirror, leaving lights on, and not taking out the garbage.

How you handled it: To resolve this, my husband and I sit down once a month and discuss what things are bothering us. This way, the little things don’t build up and turn in to big things.